When The Dream Seems Unclear

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Maybe you decided in late December that 2017 would be the year that no matter what, you would manifest all your dreams.

So you did it. You took that leap of faith.

Maybe you quit school.

Maybe you moved to a new state that’s hours and hours away.

Maybe you graduated college not really knowing your next move but praying to God that it would all work out because you couldn’t spend another moment spending time being unsure of yourself.

Maybe you had your dreams all worked out, from plan A to Z, but somewhere in there, the dream got foggy.

You may be feeling stuck and the uncertainty is all too consistent and rightfully so, you are frustrated.

Before you drown yourself in a sea of anxiousness, stop yourself and breathe.

The thing about dreams is…. while its no doubt that they will get accomplished, the time period as well as the twists and turns that lead up to getting them accomplished is uncertain.

The uncertainty of it all is when life begins to feel uncomfortable.

If you are a control freak like me, then the thought of the unknown absolutely petrifies you. You may be used to always knowing what your next move is or you may constantly daydream about the ideal life you would like to live.

So what happens, when that dream gets deferred? What happens when your dream is put on pause; when plans don’t always fall through?

You gone give up?

NO.

You gone think of yourself as a failure?

ABSOLUTELY NOT.

So what do you do?

*shrugs shoulders*

Well… first of all, you have to get it out your head that life will always go according to plan.

That’s unrealistic.

Understand that life will have many twists and turns. I am a firm believer that struggle builds character and that if life was so easy, then we would never have anything to learn from, thus not gaining any type of wisdom.

Second of all, you’re not a failure if your dreams have to be put on pause.

Again, life will throw you curve balls but don’t think that you’re the biggest failure that ever lived because of it. Take that time on pause to figure out a different way you can attack and succeed at accomplishing your dreams. You will have to bend many, many times in life, the most important thing of all of this is to NEVER FOLD and allow your circumstances to defeat you.

Lastly, give yourself some credit and celebrate that you’ve even made it this far.

So what things may not be 100% in order, at least you took that first step! That’s more than a lot of other people can say. You have to get into the habit of affirming yourself! If you can’t do it for you, reach out to those closest to you who can uplift you when you’re feeling down. If that doesn’t work, visit this blog for some inspiration (#shamelessplug, lol)

The dream will seem unclear at times. It won’t be easy, but it will be worth it. When things seem cloudy it means that things will clear up for you soon. Stay focused and keep dreaming!

Love you all,

Kia ♥

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5 Years A Blogger

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On January 1st, 2012 I started my blogging journey.

Through the years, I’ve learned so much about writing, blogging, and my own womanhood. I want to thank all my supporters over the years, for without you all I’m not sure where I would be. This blog has gained me some valuable connections, timeless life lessons and ultimately proves itself as an outlet for me to grow, learn, inspire and save my own life over and over again.

Here are 5 things I learned over the years complete with some pretty cool photos shot by Kaleb Higginbotham or @lensconcepts on Instagram.

1) If you desire to start a blog, just do it.

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“Everything I do, I do it with a passion.” @lenconcepts

There are so many people I know that desire to start a blog, but get caught up in either the “right” time or having the “right” components that they think goes along with blogging, such as professional website, a nice logo, a target audience, etc. While those things are important, I believe that a person who desires to blog should focus on creating content first. The other stuff will come, but you want to have something to show people first.

2) It’s okay to start over & reinvent if you want to.

 

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“Expect nothing out of me except growth.”

Keep in mind that when I started blogging, I was 17 going on 18 years old a couple months later. My mindset then versus my mindset now has completely changed and that should be expected. Growth is inevitable. I went from calling myself Kween K, to Kween Kia, to now just Kia Smith Writes. I’ve changed sites that hosted my blog, changed my focus from being a hip-hop music blogger to simply wanting to write about whatever is on my heart.

My point is: You don’t have to be confined to anyone’s boxes, not even your own. If something about your brand is no longer working or making you happy, change it and be unapologetic about it. Burnout in blogging is REAL, and if this is something you want to do, make sure you are happy doing it.

3) Don’t compare yourself to other writers or bloggers.

 

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“No one is me, and that is my power.”

Look, there are some pretty amazing writers and bloggers out here who have thousands of followers out here, seem to be making lots of money and seem to be taking their brand to the next level.

Over the years, I had to learn that just because other writers and bloggers seem more successful doesn’t mean I lack as a writer or blogger. Comparison is truly the thief of joy, and I had no business comparing myself to other people when I wasn’t even aware of the work, time and effort that went into cultivating their brand. Just because it looked easy doesn’t mean that it is!

Moral of the story: The grass is only as green where you water it. The energy you invest in checking for other people and comparing yourself to them is the same energy that can be used to level yourself up. Focus on you, and your writing and blogging or whatever brand building you do will get better.

4) Consistency is key, but don’t force it.

 

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“Quality is better than quantity.”

Something I have struggled with over these last 5 years is being consistent in my blogging and writing. There have been times where I haven’t written anything for months out of time, either due to pure laziness or simply not being inspired.

However, I also learned the dangers of posting TOO much, just for the sake of posting.

The quality of your content will always matter more than how often you post in my opinion. A way I started combatting this was doing writing challenges or writing prompts and actually taking out the time to plan my posts. It helps with my organization and consistency, and I won’t have my readers asking where the hell I have been or if I even still blog lol.

Learn when to post and when to take a break as well.

5) You don’t know everything.

 

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“Do what you gotta do to manifest your dreams.”

 

There is always something to know and learn about your craft. Study it. Apply it. And with so many free resources out here, with some effort and practice, you’ll get better over time.

I came into the blog game believing that I knew everything and I wasn’t humble at all. When I realized that there was a lot I didn’t know, I began to feel inadequate but that wasn’t the case either.

Instead, I should’ve had my ass on Google and utilized my amazing mentors/people I admire and soaked up every bit of information I could find. But you live and you learn with your craft. You will make mistakes, but that’s how you learn.

Overall, these past 5 years have been nothing short of amazing. I can’t wait to see what I accomplish in the next 5 years+.

Thank you all for supporting me for so long and I pray that you all will continue to do so in the years to come ♥♥♥♥♥.

 

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“Stay focused on self & unimpressed by mediocrity.”