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There's A Thin Line Between Love and Stupidity

Facebook statuses and tweets from various people I know and don't know, all prove one thing to me:

"YOU PEOPLE ARE IDIOTS WHEN IT COMES TO BEING IN LOVE AND HAVE NO IDEA WHAT IT SHOULD BE LIKE"

Now, even though I am single, I have been in a few relationships that have taught me a lot.... And I will say this.... I have been in the same boat as you all before, and probably in even worse boats... But the difference between you all and me, I learned from my past situations.... YOU DUMMIES HAVEN'T.

To you people in these toxic relationships, let me break down a few things to you about love.

Love Shouldn't.....

  • Make you cry.
  • Make you feel lonely. 
  • Make you feel insecure.
  • Make you feel incomplete.
  • Hurt you physically.
  • Make you feel guilty.
  • Hurt you sexually.
  • Abuse you emotionally.
  • Toy with you mentally.
  • Hinder you as a person.
  • Make you feel like a piece of property.
  • Make you feel as if you're not worth being faithful to.
  • Make you want to end your life.
  • Make you indecisive.
  • Make you suspicious.
  • MAKE YOU LOSE ALL COMMON SENSE.
  • MAKE YOU HAVE NO SELF RESPECT.

Now,I am not the most religious person in the world, and I can't even tell you the last time I picked up a Bible, but.... there is this one particular Bible scripture that sticks out to me about love.


In 1st Corinthians Chapter 14 Verse 4-7 it reads:

"Love is patient, love is kind. It does not envy, it does not boast, it is not proud.
It is not rude, it is not self-seeking, it is not easily angered. It keeps no records of wrongs.
Love does not delight in evil, but rejoices with the truth.
It always protects, always trusts, always hopes, always preserves."

I put that scripture into this blog because every time I look around and see these young couples "in love" I get sad because in my opinion, it's the furthest thing from that.

How are you in love when he hits you?
How are you in love when she disrespects you?
How are you in love when he makes you feel insecure?
How are you in love when he doesn't support you?
How are you in love when she cheats on you?
How are you in love when you never learned how to love yourself?

The problem with young people, older people and even OLD people is that people try to hold on to things that should've been over a long time ago. 

I believe people come into your life as seasons,or people come into your life to teach you something. When the season is over, or the lesson is learned, it's time to let go.

People don't like to let go tho.

I hate the excuse "We go thru _______ and I put up with __________ because I love him/her"

-_______________________________-

That makes no type of logical sense! (in my opinion)

No dummy, you're N O T in love anymore, you're stupid and even worse than being stupid is the fact you're attached,and you don't w a n t to let go of them out of fear that you don't believe there's anything better. So you settle, hoping and praying that the representative (not person, but representative)that you fell in love with comes back....

Not knowing, that person will never, ever, come back.

There is indeed a thin line between love and stupidity.... and many of you have crossed the line a long time ago.

Donnell Jones sang it the best "When you love someone, you just don't treat them bad"

So this is the point of the blog where I'm supposed to give some advice right?

Too bad I don't do that. I've tried to help friends, family members and others who find themselves in this kind of situation, but I realized...

I can't help anyone who doesn't want to help themselves.

You can talk to someone all you want, but at the end of the day, they'll do what they feel is best for them, no matter how you may feel.

Life is supposed to be a learning experience anyway right.? 
Let the trials and tribulations of love be your teacher.

Love VS. Stupidity....

Which side are you on?